Ben Affleck recently dished about his breakup with Jennifer Lopez in a GQ interview, a pretty rare move for the normally private actor. And now a source is out here claiming that Ben made the decision to spill because he was “so over” everyone thinking J.Lo was the “victim” in their split.

Apparently,” Ben had never planned to address their divorce because it is a private matter, and he respects Jen. But after she spoke about him to Interview magazine, he decided it was time to say what he had to say in the nicest way possible.”

Meanwhile, Ben hopes their split won’t “overshadow” their upcoming movie, Kiss Of The Spider Woman (which she stars in and he produced). “Also, regarding their movie, Ben is trying to get the deal locked,” the source explains. “He does want this to succeed and not be overshadowed by their drama, which happened to Unstoppable.”