There have been a lot of conflicting sources about how everyone’s feeling in the wake of Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner’s Paintball PDA™, and the latest? A source tells Page Six that J.Lo is “devastated,” but has told everyone around her not to lay into Ben.

“She’s devastated,” an insider close to the multi-hyphenate says. “She’s keeping it together publicly but told everyone around her not to trash Ben. She doesn’t want to get down in the dirt with him.”

Meanwhile, one source claims that both Jennifer & Jennifer are fully not interested in Ben. At least romantically.

“I’d say they’re both relieved to be done with him. Ben’s an emotional roller coaster. He’s even been reaching out to Jennifer Lopez again recently. The two Jennifers are friends. They bonded over co-parenting their kids… Who wants the guy? Do you think he’s the prize? No way. It’s like, ‘Next!’”